Well, it's a fast-paced world out there, and not every girl rules a kingdom, so don't expect statues erected in your honor - but there are a bunch of little things to look out for that will give you an idea of if your gal is madly and deeply head over heels with you.
You climbed inside my world and in my songs
If she's in love with you, you may find her singing. Maybe they are songs you introduced her to when you first started dating. Maybe she takes songs and substitutes your name or adds lyrics to them about you or your relationship with her (this isn't so easy is your name is Alowishus, but it can be fun if your name happens to be Matt, Dave, Wade, or Richard). She may take to singing to her cat, her plants, or just outloud to herself while doing mundane things. It sounds silly, I know, but love makes us all do silly things, and singing about our men is just one of the many things we do.Those little gifts
Say what you will about traditional roles (many are true), but guys like to receive gifts as much as women, and girls know this. Now, just because she didn't get you a home entertainment system doesn't mean she's not paying attention. Gift giving may seem incongruous, at first. She may get you a Matchbox '69 Nova because you like muscle cars, or you tickets to some underground band that even YOU haven't heard of – because you've impressed her with your musical knowledge, and she thinks you're just that cool. Or she may greet you by wearing that outfit that made you stare and not keep your hands to yourself (that's a gift both people can enjoy).Letting you decide
Letting you decide isn't supposed to sound as derisive as it reads. She loves you, and she trusts you, so instead of wanting to do something and having you both say “I don't know” back and forth until the entire city has shut down for the night, she's letting you pick what to do. Unlike what women's magazines would have you believe, THIS IS NOT A TEST! Letting you decide isn't a chance for her to scrutinize where you both go to see how well you know her. Letting you decide shows a level of intimate trust, and is also part of the ever-going exchange of information between lovers to discover what each one enjoys. Besides, she knows you're probably not going to choose to go to the strip club. Nor is she looking for you to pick going to see a chick flick, either.She's giving you time to yourself
This does not mean you are in the dog house. So many men take it to mean that, and even more assume it's because women are mad at them. If you fall into this category, you are probably 180-degrees off target. See, there comes a point when love exceeds everything. It's no longer those initial, burning, passionate weeks. This is another trust level in a relationship that is a true sign that your girlfriend is in love with you. Beyond wanting to be included in your world (which should go without saying), and beyond (perhaps the less respectable) wanting to keep an eye on you), there's a point where your girlfriend knows you, and trusts you to want to enjoy those things you enjoyed before you started dating. She's not admonishing you. She's not racking up some warped credit line (though I've seen many men and women do that, and it's just unhealthy) wherein you are allowed to have a beer with your friends IF you promise to clean the house, walk the dog, retile the kitchen, and mow the lawn for the next six months. No. Just as she wouldn't expect you to sit through a Sex And The City marathon with wine coolers, you wouldn't expect her to sit and watch you play Call of Duty: Slightly Different Than The Last One and swoon over how you totally one-shoted your opponent and then sat on the face of his lifeless digital corpse. She trusts you enough to let you enjoy yourself as an individual – and if that doesn't speak volumes to how much she values you as part of her world, I don't know what does. It's the ones that think they have to trail you and practically hire a private eye that you have to watch out for.She tells you
How can I make this easier for you? If she loves you, she will tell you. This isn't reserved for when you buy her new shoes. This isn't reserved for just the bedroom or right before you go to sleep, or hang up on the phone. Nor should you be telling her that you love her and then wait to hear it in return. The last thing you want to do is go from her Han Solo to being Princess Leia while she just gives you an “I know” as a response. If she loves you, she will tell you – of her own volition, and probably when you least expect it.Closing words about being yourself
If you read the words on women's magazines and advice columns from month to month, you will often notice that they not only become increasingly absurd, but that they often contradict one another. “How what he eats can tell you if he's cheating” is right next to “If he loves you, he'll buy you new shoes,” and next month, it will be “A faithful man starves himself and dosn't buy his woman anything.” What does it mean?It means that magazines like selling issues more than they do real advice.
The best advice I can give you is not to pay attention to those articles. If a woman loves you, she will let you know. Now, everything I mentioned above goes both ways (except maybe the Han Solo comment – but we'll save role playing for a different article). She will show you and tell you that she loves you. This does not mean that you should be jumping through hurdles and walking over fire to elicit those words from her.
Most girls prefer their guys to be uncharred and unbroken (as much as possible, anyway), so getting her to say those magic words are as simple as being yourself, while also paying attention to what she likes and how she likes to be treated. If you find her nibbling your ear, or just leaning against you and sighing with a smile, you may come to realize that sometimes little things go light years beyond words.
If she loves you, you won't need to ask.
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